Getting your heart broken is probably one of the worst things that can happen in your life. It is difficult to wake up one day and realize that the love of your life has decided to leave you for someone else. At the same time, it also hurts to think about all the time and efforts you have shared with the other person. You may feel that the world has turned its back on you and that there is no longer tomorrow. What you are feeling at the moment is valid, but it does not mean that you have to remain that way for a long time.
You may feel like you’ve wasted time or that you’ve failed in some way—regardless of whether you were the one to initiate the dissolution. No matter how it ended, it’s important to evaluate what happened—what went well, what went wrong—to strengthen your relationship muscles and learn about yourself. — Angela Avery, MA, LLPC, NCC
In this article, we are going to provide you with some techniques to follow so that you can move on from your broken heart. Keep in mind that the goal of this article is to encourage everyone to accept the reality that some relationships are not meant to stay forever. As such, you have no choice but to gather the broken pieces of your heart and face tomorrows all by yourself. Here are some of the interesting tips to keep in mind:
Give Your Time To Grieve
Never deny yourself the chance to feel emotional pain and suffering. Do not be afraid to give yourself a time to grieve. Take note that when you let your tears out, you will get a better chance of feeling better about the breakup. The more you remind yourself about the pain that you’ve been through, the more motivated you will become to improve your days.
Though it’s certainly reasonable to take a few days to sleep in, avoid the outside world, and “wallow,” it can be easy to fall into a prolonged state of misery. To avoid this, and to keep from feeling down on yourself, commit to making self-care your first priority. — John Sovec, LMFT
Keep Yourself Busy
Now that you are single again make sure that you will spend your time doing productive things. For example, you can enroll in classes or workshops that you have always wanted to join. The best part about keeping yourself busy is that you will begin to forget the other person without you noticing it. However, it is best to choose activities that you are passionate about so that you can also experience pure bliss.
Forgive The Other Person
Make sure that you will not keep a grudge against the other person. The right thing to do is to forgive your former lover even if he has not asked for forgiveness. Keep in mind that the primary or main goal of doing this is not to cut him some slack. Instead, take note that you are doing it for yourself. Once you have let go of your hatred towards him, you will feel better about yourself.
Breakups are painful and you will do best if you have supportive people to lean on. This means being honest with them about your struggles so that they can understand your circumstance and truly support your decision to end your relationship. — LESLIE BECKER-PHELPS, PHD
Talk To A Close Friend
There are times when you will experience a relapse from the break-up. During these moments, you will find yourself feeling extremely sad because of what happened with your previous relationship. When this happens, the ideal or right thing to do is to look for someone whom you can open up to. Talk to this person and let all your feelings out. Do not be embarrassed to talk about what you are feeling. Put in mind that the more open you are about your emotions, the better you become in handling them.